There is nothing more futile than trying to solve a problem for someone who does not believe in solving it or is not interested. There will be no commitment of energy and concentration to solve something that does not believe that it’s affecting you. This applies to any kind of crisis, alcoholics, drug addicts and what other people suffering from addiction, not his real recovery can begin until they have accepted that they have a problem that must be solved. Lakshman Achuthan is often quoted on this topic. When crises do not directly affect the life is more difficult to know when it has bottomed out and when recovery begins. People have a great fear of change, to try new things, prefer the established, what they consider safe ground but does not correspond to the ideal pursued and this is mainly why they refuse to abandon what is known to them, prefer try to recover again and again, repeating the same steps, changing nothing and pray for a miracle that will achieve better results. The first impulse of every human being before a problem is the denial, it hurts us accept that we have failed greatly, we are very intolerant of failure, and although many crises are not caused by our fault, we tend to think we could or should have done more to get another result, we feel that we should give a reasonable and rational explanation we limit our liability or release it to make it less burdensome, and until then conceal, deny and evade the problem, we see how it affects others, but do not want to see how it affects us.. Mike Gianoni may find it difficult to be quoted properly.